Today I want to talk to you about words. Did you know your words are powerful? Your choice of words directly influences your mood, others' moods, and even your future.
The Bible teaches in Proverbs 18:20-21,
"A man's stomach will be sated with the fruits of his mouth; he will be sated with the produce of his lips. Death and life are in the power of the tongue; those who love [to use it] will eat its fruit." - The Stone Edition TaNaKh
Think of your words as seeds, you are either planting life or death. Those seeds will bear fruit one way or another. So you have to decide what you like better, life or death?
The Bible isn't the only place where the power of words is taught and I love it when different fields of belief and even science brings support to what the Word of God teaches. In order to bring more understanding to this important topic, I ask you to think about the following examples.
Consider the field of aromatherapy, which teaches that our wellness relies on a balance between the mind, body and spirit. Our physical body is surrounded by an electromagnetic field called an aura. This aura is made up of seven layers call etheric bodies that each has their own wavelength that is seen as a color. Although these layers are difficult to see by the human eye, some people are able to see them. Running through a person's aura are seven major bodies of energy called chakras. When the chakras are balanced, health and wellness are the norm. When there is a lack of balance, symptoms occur that can lead to sickness and disease.
The specific chakra I would like to focus on is the throat chakra, located at the base of the neck and associated with the color blue. When it is unbalanced many problems can arise ranging from sore throats to thyroid disease. One of the most telling symptoms of an unbalanced throat chakra is a person's speech. When this chakra is not in balance a person might find himself or herself struggling for words or shying away from speaking the truth. On the other hand, when this chakra is balanced a person is able to communicate almost effortlessly in kindness, love and truth; inspiring and enlightening others is not difficult when the throat chakra is in balance. This goes hand in hand with the concept that life and death are in the power of the tongue.
Additionally, just as God created the world, our words also create worlds which affect most directly our own. Often we know what kind of world we want to live in, and what kind of life we want to lead, but are incapable of putting this into words that bring manifestation to what we desire in our hearts. If words are seeds that we sow, it stands to reason that we should be very intentional with the speech we use on a day-to-day basis. A balanced throat chakra will bring life and direction to the world you want to create for yourself.
"Words are themselves sacred, God's tool for creating the universe and our tool for bringing holiness or evil into the world." - A.J. Herschel
The idea that words bring our thoughts into manifestation, creating things and worlds is a concept that Judaism has taught for thousands of years, going back to creation itself in which God spoke the world into existence. This grand scheme concept is also evident in how words affect individuals themselves. Research has shown that words can literally alter the state of our brains.* Negative words cause increased activity in the amygdala leading people to feel more anxious, depressed, and even angry. When people give voice to negative thoughts they not only cause a negative cascade effect in their own brains, the listener is affected as well leading to an increase in the release of stress chemicals for both. It doesn't matter if these words are not legitimate, our primitive brain can't tell the difference. It reacts to what it hears. Positive words on the other hand have the opposite effect. Research shows that these types of words change the expression of genes in a positive way, affecting even the thalamus, increasing the strength of our frontal lobes and encouraging cognitive function. It seems clear that if we change our words for the good, we can literally change our realities.
Recently I was listening to Marisa Peer, the "therapist's therapist" talk about words in connection with dropping pounds. She brought up the fact that when people want to get thinner they often start talking about going on a diet and losing weight. This automatically can set them up for failure. While they might indeed shed the weight, more often than not they gain it all back and then some. Think about how many times this has happened to you.
The problem, Marisa explains is the word "loss" which according to her, our minds do not like because loss is bad and associated with pain. See, our minds are very archaic and react to the words we speak. They can't help it. If we talk about losing, our minds are going to be focused on holding on to what it can take back.
"Stop using the word loss, instead start using the words reducing,
shedding, discarding, going back to a perfect size six, ten, twelve..." - Marisa Peer.
Over the past six to eight months I have dropped close to thirty pounds. I did not do this intentionally by going on a diet or focusing on losing weight. Specifically, I did not want to think or even talk about losing weight, I wanted to focus on being healthy so that my fertility would be the best it could be as I neared the goal of IVF. I formed an eating plan that required me to omit processed foods, gluten, most sugar and all alcohol. Healthy fats, grass-fed/organic meats and wild fish, along with plenty of vegetables and fruits became the food staples found in my house with the occasional allowance here and there. The result? Almost thirty pounds gone and I feel better than ever.
How do you feel about words now that you've read this far? Can you see how your words might be affecting your life in a not so good way? Words are the vehicle through which we build our lives. If you are struggling to create the life you love, I recommend listening to yourself talk. What are you saying with your mouth? How are the words you speak affecting you and the people you speak to?
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*Newberg, Andrew, and Mark Waldman. "The Most Dangerous Word in the World."Psychology Today. August 1, 2012. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/words-can-change-your-brain/201208/why-word-is-so-dangerous-say-or-hear?collection=112977
Sarah Rezonzew is a Holistic Health & Life coach specializing in online and in person coaching, helping people achieve growth, attain their goals and obtain balance in the areas of health, spirituality, career/finances and relationships. Her website offers resources and courses dealing with these four areas and subcategories such as weight loss, fertility, joyful living, personal development, personal growth, healthy communication and more. You can reach her by visiting her website Your Next Best Life or by emailing her at email@example.com